“Get to you.” It’s surprising how three very simple words can sum up such a big idea. I think it’s one of those sayings that is said but not really understood. Particularly for people with anxiety and/or depression, along with the similar term, ruminating, this can be a key part of their mind-set, which is why I wanted to explain what this means more fully. It’s also an idea that is linked to a couple of other pieces I am working on to publish.

First of all, this thinking process can be natural and out with our control when it starts. However, there can be ways that I feel it can be encouraged which I may speak on in another instalment. I’m sure you can imagine for someone with either anxiety and/or depression, their thought process isn’t always positive or realistic. Personally, once a ridiculous thought gets into my head, which makes me feel uncomfortable, it can become the main focus of my time and energy. It can be around events that come back into mind and how I acted, often going over what could have been the best outcome or whether I avoided the worst outcome. It can then be hard to divert my attention back into the moment and what can be done to help in that moment so I just feel lost and confused. Another struggle can be when I have had relief from those uncomfortable thoughts for a time and I start to test yourself on how long it has been since I last thought about that thought, which I realise is counter-productive.

If you are also struggling with something like this, there are ways of learning to confront your negative, unhelpful thoughts in a healthy way. I have personally done this through counselling which I would recommend. But there are many organisations who offer information and advice on these issues.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope you find it helpful. As always, feel free to get in touch with any questions/feedback/comments, I always love to hear them. Stay tuned for the next instalment.

Until next time
K